Encouraging a Loved One to Attend Sober Living

encouraging a loved oneHow do you convince a loved one that sober living is the best option? It can be a sticky subject. After inpatient drug rehab, your family member may want nothing more than to return home. To hear you say that it might be advisable for them to instead go to a sober living home for weeks or months may be tough; in fact, it may not be an easy discussion for either one of you.

So how do you broach the subject of sober living when it seems that your loved one in recovery is dead set on making different choices? Here are some suggestions to assist you.

The Conversation: A Formal Intervention

If you have already attempted multiple casual conversations and had no success in communicating the benefits of sober living or convincing your family member that it’s a safer choice for their recovery than returning home, a formal intervention approach can help you. It will not take the same form as the intervention that may have aided you in helping your addicted loved one to choose drug rehab. However, a formal conversation can help to set the right tone. You can:

Invite your loved one to dinner or go to their drug rehab if they are still in treatment. Having the conversation in person is important.

Choose to address the subject in the context of a therapy session.

Include one or two other family members who are equally as dedicated to helping your loved one in recovery.

Make it clear that you love them and that your sole focus is to ensure that they are successful in recovery for the long-term.

Dual Foci: How Far They’ve Come, How Far They Have to Go

Start by congratulating your loved one in recovery for achieving so much. They have worked hard to break free from physical withdrawal symptoms, to avoid the temptation to leave treatment, and to stay focused on laying the groundwork for a long life in recovery.

But it should be clear to them through their therapy sessions and workshops that these are only the first steps. Recovery is a process that is constantly evolving. To abruptly go from 24-hour support and constant therapeutic intervention to an occasional 12-step meeting and/or therapy session can be a huge jolt in early recovery. Add to this the stresses of moving, acclimating to a new home environment, finding a new job and/or enrolling in school, addressing the issues that were problematic prior to drug rehab at home and in the community, running into old drug dealers and “using” partners – it’s a difficult situation to survive without relapse with only 30 days or so of clean time. It can take years to become adjusted to living life without drugs and alcohol, and sober living can extend the amount of time that patients have the round-the-clock support they need to practice their coping skills and build up clean time.

Ongoing Support

When discussing the option of sober living with your loved one, you can emphasize the fact that you intend to continue providing them with support as they grow in recovery. By offering them the option of a sober living home, you have demonstrated your dedication to doing what’s best for them and helping them heal even if you want them home as well.

Contact us at the phone number listed above to learn more about the different types of sober living homes and which one may be best suited to your loved one.

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